Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Mrs. Lindsay Lusk...Associate Pastor's Wife!

Husband’s Position- My husband is an associate pastor at Hillcrest Baptist Church in El Paso, Texas.
How long have you been married? 10 years in June
How many children/grandchildren do you have? How old are they? We have three blessings:  Clayton (13); Quinton (8); and Hudson (1).  The Lord chose to build our family in a unique way – our older two are family members of ours that we are raising.  I thought it might be a good idea to point that out since, if you do the math, we shouldn’t have a 13-year-old yet J
1.  Where/How did you meet your husband? We met our freshman year (2000) at Heartland Baptist Bible College.
2.      When did you get saved? I was saved on November 1, 1998.
3.    Can you share your testimony?  I would love to!  The Lord has been so good to me!  I was raised in a single-parent, Christian home and I am SO thankful that my mom had us in church (Eastside Baptist Church in Sioux Falls, SD) from an early age.  I had been told that I had made a profession of faith when I was young.  While I was in high school, I really started struggling with assurance of my salvation as I just did not remember anything about my so-called profession.  After going back and forth for quite a while, I just decided I was going to take care of it right then so that I had no more doubting.  I was 16 when I accepted Christ and am so grateful to now have that sweet assurance.  (Side note:  after coming to the Lord, a sweet lady in our church tracked down the information regarding the profession I had made as a young child – I was barely three.  That would explain why I hardly remembered it!)
4.      How long have you been in the ministry?  Combined total of almost six years (this is our second ministry – we took a break in between ministries for my husband to finish his schooling).
5.    How did you know the Lord wanted you in the ministry? Was it hard for you to submit to that or did you know 100% sure right away that this is what God wanted for your life?  You know, I really did know from early on – before I even met my husband.  When I left for Bible college, I just had a feeling that I wouldn’t be moving back home as I felt the Lord had something else for me.  I don’t remember a specific call from the Lord, but more an assurance (especially while I was in Bible college) that being in the ministry is what He had for me.  I did not have a difficult time submitting to it at all.  I think this is because of the influence my home pastor and his family had on me.  I saw what a blessing it was (for me personally) to have someone follow the Lord and be in the ministry and I have always been grateful for the opportunity to try and be a blessing in the same way to someone else.
6.      How old were you when you your husband first held a position of leadership?  I was 20 when he first became the youth pastor at his home church (Bible Baptist Church, Ennis, Texas).
7.      And if you were young, did you have a hard time adjusting because of your age? Did you feel “ready” to be in that position? Did you feel you had a harder time being respected or taken seriously because of your age? YES, NO, and somewhat J  The first six months we were working with the youth, we had a group of kids that were barely younger than me and some of them had actually been in the youth group WITH my husband… pretty awkward J  Anyway, they were real sweet about it and the next “crop” of teens were much younger and we were able to have them through most of their high school years.  I feel like I was my own worst enemy as far as making myself feel inadequate because I was so young.  No one else made me feel that way, just me.  The adults at our church were wonderful and not disrespectful in any way so that was a huge blessing.  One of the many times in my life that I just had to remember that if the Lord called me to it, then I didn’t need to worry what anyone else (including me) thought about it.
8.      Once you had children did you find you did less in the ministry and was that hard for you?  This is a little bit of a tough question to answer since we were given all three of our children at once and two of them were already older.  Obviously, not the “normal” situation.  Also, when we went from having no kids (for eight years) to having all three, we were in Bible college – not really in an official “position” of ministry at the time.  But, for the sake of the question, if I had to compare our first ministry (pre-kids) with our current ministry, I would say that there is quite a difference.  But, in my opinion, a wonderful difference.  I wanted to be a mama for so long that I don’t really resent anything that my children might “keep” me from doing.  I hope that makes sense.   
9.      What are some ways you included and involved your children in the ministry?
a.      Baby…Of course, Hudson spends most of his time in the nursery J  But I try really hard to “share” him with folks at the church.  I hope that doesn’t sound weird.  In other words, if he is acting shy, I still encourage him/help him to shake other people’s hands and sometimes even go to people.  Now, if he has had an especially rough day or isn’t feeling good, that’s another story.  I obviously want to try to find a balance between doing my best job as a mama but also not enabling him to be a stinker just because he feels like being one J Again, I hope that makes sense.  (I’ve already said that haven’t I?) 
b.      Toddler… Am just now getting to that point with Hudson (see above), but wasn’t able to experience that stage with my older boys.
c.       School age/teens… I LOVE LOVE LOVE having older boys!  I am constantly telling my friends (who have several small children) that I have it SO much easier than them because my older two are SUCH a big help!  I love that they love serving and I hope to continue to instill that in them by my words and my example.  They LOVE it when we have people over to the house and they are both pretty social with going around church and greeting everybody/shaking their hands.  Just yesterday, Clayton reminded me that we need to “reinvite” our neighbors to church since they didn’t come the last time we invited them.  He was even willing to go over there himself J  My husband and I try really hard to make them aware of other’s needs (both here in our home and in church) and not to be thinking of themselves.  All that being said, again, we hope to find a good balance between family time and ministry time, but a lot of times, they are combined.  We love serving as a family!
10.  Do you ever worry that your children would resent the ministry and what are some ways you tried to make it fun for them?  As I mentioned before, we really make sure to involve them in everything that we are able to so that they just see it as a way of life – not as something they HAVE to do.  Also, I’ve been encouraged lately (actually from reading other “Ministry Monday” posts) to verbally talk about what a blessing it is to be in the ministry.  My husband and I also make it a point to not say anything negative or discouraging about certain things – especially in front of the boys.
11.  What would be the best thing you would tell a mom who is raising her children in the ministry?  I think the best piece of parenting advice I ever heard was from a man in our church in Oklahoma City when we were in Bible college.  It’s not specifically for ministry moms, but is applicable even more so I would imagine.  “Our job is not to raise good kids, but to raise Godly adults.”  I try to keep that perspective when dealing with all areas of our children’s lives; whether it be here at home in treating their brothers, at church when serving/ministering to others, and even when disciplining.  I don’t know if there is such a things as a “perfect balance” but I’m trying to reach it if there is J  Trying to spend that one-on-one time with them so that they never feel robbed of my time, but also involving them in as much ministry as possible so that, hopefully, they will cultivate a love for serving God as well.
12.  Are you naturally a submissive person or do you sometimes have a hard time easily following your husband?  Ah!!  Everytime I read this question on other wives’ questionnaires, I’m just looking for someone to say “IS there such a thing as a naturally submissive person?!” ha!  Definitely my carnal flesh is not submissive.  This is something that the Lord has been molding and shaping me into even more so in the last couple of years.  I do feel like I’ve gotten better at submitting but what I have to guard against is a bad attitude while doing so.  Obviously, a bad attitude completely negates any “submission” that I might be proud of.
13.  What do you do to encourage your husband when he is discouraged with the work?  I have to be careful with this because I have such a tendency to want to encourage anyone and everyone and sometimes what I want to say may not always be Spirit-led.  Usually, I will listen to him for quite a while without saying anything and then just say things when I know the Lord wants me to.   Also, just lately I feel like I’ve started to understand how important it is for my husband to WANT to come home to a nice house, dinner on the table that he likes, as a sort of encouragement in itself, so I’ve really been working in this area as well.
14.  How do deal with any criticism toward your husband from others?  Thankfully, I don’t know that we have really experienced much (if any) of this.  I know there are some people who from time to time don’t agree with something that my husband has done but they haven’t come to me to say so, they just mostly tell him to his face J  At that point, I just try to be a listening  board and offer words of encouragement if the Lord so leads.
15.  How do you deal with personal criticisms?  I try to remember Proverbs 29:1 “He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.”  I remind myself that there is so much to learn from others and not to be prideful and not accept suggestions, etc. from others.  Most of the time if people criticize something I’ve done, it’s usually something that I’ve done under my authority’s umbrella of protection so to speak.  So, I just pass the buck J  No, that sounds harsh.  I’ll just usually (and kindly) refer them to my authority. 
16.  Do you set aside date nights/days with your husband?  We do from time to time, but not on a regularly scheduled basis.  My favorite evenings are when the kids are in bed and he and I can just hang out for a while.
17.  What is the biggest thing you have learned about being married to a man in the ministry?  In a sentence:  to have the proper view of ministry itself.  To not view it as drudgery or a chore, or even as my husband’s “job” that once he gets home he can escape from.  As most ladies who are reading this know, it’s not a typical job.  When you’re “off”, you’re not really off, and I’m okay with that.  I married a man who was called to preach and that was my choice.  It wouldn’t be right for me to view his job as an inconvenience, but rather I try to jump in with both feet and help him where I can.
18.  What are some ways you protect your husband from “those” women in the church?  We haven’t dealt with this while ministering to adults (thankfully!), but while he was a youth pastor, we had to put some boundaries in place as far as no “frontal” hugging from teenage girls, never being alone in a vehicle with any of the teenage girls, etc. 
19.  Do you and your husband have devotion or prayer time together daily?  We do not.  We have our own personal devotions of course and will share with each other from time to time how the Lord has been speaking to us.
20. Do you have a hard time sharing your burdens with your husband in fear that it will discourage him?  Sometimes.  If it’s something that I ultimately know is pretty minor, I will share it with him because he can usually talk some sense into me J  If it’s something major, I try to pray about it first – should I bring this up to him?  And if so, when?  (I’ve learned that timing is everything when bringing up important things to my husband.  Sunday morning before he is going teach?  Probably not a good idea J)
21.  What do you do to encourage yourself in the Lord?  Lock myself in my room (while the baby is sleeping and my older two are doing school) for 10-15 minutes and get in the Word.  Best medicine for any discouraged soul.
22.  What is your favorite Scripture?  I have two:  Psalm 18:30 “As for God, his way is perfect:  the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.”  And I Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:  but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted about that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
23.  Do you have a favorite song?  I love “God’s Been God”!
24.  What is your biggest struggle in the ministry?  Hands down, comparing myself to others.  Unfortunately, this is something that I have struggled with through the years.  Before I was in the ministry, it was comparing myself to so-and-so.  And now?  Being in the ministry?  If left to myself, not much has changed.  This is where I again have to remind myself that God doesn’t move in everyone’s lives in the exact same way, and it’s “okay” if something in my life isn’t the same as someone else’s if He hasn’t led me in that way.
25.  Do you ever find that you are not able to have close lady friends in your church?  Now, I haven’t ever been the head pastor’s wife and I would almost imagine that in that position, one might need to be even more guarded against that.  However, I would say that in my own life, I’ve found that there are people that you are naturally going to grow closer to just because they may be more involved in similar ministries and you see more of them, etc.  I try not to single people out to speak with/visit with while I’m at church.  If I’m talking to someone and another lady approaches us, I try and join her in on our conversation so that she doesn’t feel left out.  I should note that I feel so blessed with the church staff God has allowed us to be a part of.  We are all fairly young (20’s and 30’s), roughly in the same stage of life as each other and of course, have quite a bit in common.  We LOVE spending time with each other and I have become good friends with the other staff ladies.  (Super fun side note:  my pastor’s wife was actually my childhood best friend and her dad was my pastor while I was growing up.  Most people here at church are so surprised to find out how long we have known each other J)
26.  When you are discouraged, do you feel like you can “show” that feeling to ladies in the church? Or, do you feel like you always have to portray the “perfect” happy Pastor’s wife?  Absolutely (to the first question J).  I feel very strongly that when someone is “real” that makes all the difference as far as ministering goes.  Now, there are boundaries.  Obviously, I’m not going to call so-and-so up and tell her all the things about my husband that frustrate me.  My point is, my husband and believe that effective ministry is built on relationships, and real relationships cannot grow without some level of transparency.  Again, there are clear boundaries here, but I feel like it’s important to not make yourself seem “perfect”; like you are on some sort of higher level, when that isn’t the case at all. 
27.  Have you ever made a big mistake or offended someone, and if yes, how did you go about restoring that relationship?  Well, I guess it’s good that nothing HUGE immediately comes to mind – ha!  I will say that I have a tendency to over-apologize (I guess that’s a good thing?) if I do feel like I’ve offended someone.  Most of the time, if I find myself in such a situation, the person I’m talking to doesn’t have the slightest clue what I am apologizing for, so that’s always humbling J
28. Do you have other lady ministry friends that you go to for counsel and “venting” purposes?  Counsel?  Definitely.  Venting?  I try to keep that between me and the Lord and sometimes my husband of course.  As I mentioned earlier, I am so thankful for the church staff that we are a part of and I feel very comfortable going to any of these ladies to talk to them.  I’m also thankful for technology where I am able to keep in touch with a lot of my friends from Bible college who are serving in various ministries and they are always an encouragement to me.
29.  Other than praying, what is the most encouraging thing ladies in the church can do for you?  For me, I love it when people love my family.  To hear an encouraging word about my husband’s message or my children’s behavior is such a blessing to me.
30.  What is your favorite way to serve the Lord in your church?  A big part of my husband’s job is that he oversees all of the Sunday School classes.  It’s important to him that he builds relationships with the Sunday School teachers; he doesn’t want to have “Sunday morning only” type relationships.  That being said, we have people over to the house a lot just to try and be a blessing to them and to get to know them better.  I would say that is my favorite part of serving the Lord and being a blessing to my husband. 
31.  Do you currently have special Ladies Bible Study, meetings, or fellowships?  Yes, we do.  I am not solely responsible for any one thing, but my pastor’s wife does an amazing job!  We have a Friday night/Saturday morning ladies’ conference in the spring, a mother/daughter banquet, as well as monthly ladies’ meetings which are always such a blessing.
32.  What ways do you encourage your ladies to get involved in the work of the church?  Last year, my pastor’s wife split the ladies ministry up into several groups (one of which I am in “charge of” if you want to say).  I try to build relationships with the ladies that are in my group.  I don’t want to just pick up the phone to call them if I need them to do something, you know that I mean?  That being said, we have found a good way to involve ladies is to find out what they are interested in.  There are several ladies that love to cook, others may enjoy decorating more.  I try to find out what their interests are and then use them in that way.  Also, another staff wife had mentioned how important it is to let the ladies know how much you appreciate it when they do something for a meeting, banquet, etc., so I send out thank you notes to let them know their work didn’t go unnoticed.
33.  What is the most important thing you want to pass down to your children?  To be young men (and one day, older men) of integrity.  To love the Lord with all their being and follow Him.  If it’s being in the ministry?  Great.  If it’s being a doctor or a cashier at a convenience store?  Great.  Just serve Him and follow Him with their whole hearts. 
34.  In all of your business, how do you fit your personal time in with the Lord each day?  I HAVE to do it first thing in the morning, which requires me to wake up about an hour before the kids get up.  If I don’t do it then, it won’t get done.
35.  Out of all that you have learned being in the full time ministry, what is the most important thing you have learned?  God can and wants to use everyday people (like me) to have an impact and eternally change the lives of others.  I know because that is what happened in my own life.
36.   How would you describe the “perfect” Pastor’s wife?  Is there such a person? J  A lady that, first of all, has her relationship with the Lord right and secondly, has her relationship with her husband right.  She asks herself:  What can I do to serve my Lord and my husband?  How can I do to be a blessing and help to my husband?

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

**this is to encourage all of my single friends to WAIT for God's timing in your relationships!**

**author unknown**

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone,
To have a deep soul relationship with another,
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But to a Christian, God says, "No, not until you are satisfied,
Fulfilled and content with being loved by me alone,
With giving yourself totally and unreservedly to me.
With having an intensely personal and unique relationship with me alone.

Discovering that only in me is your satisfaction to be found,
Will you be capable of the perfect human relationship,
That I have planned for you.

You will never be united to another
Until you are united with me.
Exclusive of anyone or anything else. Exclusive of any other desires or longings.
I want you to stop planning, to stop wishing, and allow me to give you
The most thrilling plan existing . . . one you cannot imagine.
I want you to have the best.

Please allow me to bring it to you.
You just keep watching me, expecting the greatest things.
Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am.
Keep listening and learning the things that I tell you.
Just wait, that’s all.

Don’t be anxious, don’t worry
Don’t look around at things others have gotten
Or that I have given them
Don’t look around at the things you think you want,
Just keep looking off and away up to me,
Or you’ll miss what I want to show you.
And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love
Far more wonderful than you could dream of.
You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for you is ready,
I am working even at this moment
To have both of you ready at the same time.
Until you are both satisfied exclusively with me
And the life I’ve prepared for you,
You won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me.
And this is perfect love.

And, dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love.
I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me.
And to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union
Of beauty, perfection and love that I offer you with Myself.
Know that I love you utterly.For I am God. Believe it and be satisfied.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Mrs. Chris Ingram...Missionary Wife!

Husband’s Position- Missionary
How long have you been married? 30 years in November
How many children/grandchildren do you have? 4 children and 7 grand childrenHow old are they? kids are all adults and grands range from 15 to 4
What field are you and your husband in/ going to? to the gypsies in Eastern Europe; will be living in Croatia
  1. When/Where did you meet your husband? We met at our home church, Trinity Baptist Church in Arlington, TX
  2. When did you get saved? My Sunday School teacher led me to the Lord when I was six years old.  She happened to be a missionary wife home on furlough.
  3. Can you share your testimony? My mother was divorced and remarried when I was young.  The pastor that married them was an independent Baptist pastor.  After they got married we started going to the church.  My mother and new father were both saved before they married.  Within a few months of going to church I quickly learned that even at my age that I was a sinner that needed to be saved.  One Sunday morning I walked down the aisle and my Sunday School teacher led me to the Lord.  I was baptized that night.
  4. How long have you been in the ministry? Since 1982.
  5. Did you feel the same call as your husband to that specific location, or did you just feel the call to follow your husband? I felt the Lord calling me to the mission field when I was in high school. But I rebelled after I watched my mother die from a brain tumor.  But the Lord was not going to let me get away that easy.  Through many years of fighting Him, I surrendered.  Literally.  I told the Lord that I give up.  And right after that He put my future husband in my path. 
  6. How long did you/ have you been traveling on deputation? We came off the mission field several years ago because of my health and family problems.  We surrerendered to go back this past February.  My husband has been on furlough since October.
  7. What is the hardest thing about being on deputation? For me the hardest thing is being away from my grandchildren. (Sorry kids!)
  8. What do enjoy the most about being on deputation? When we had the children it was being able to take them all over the United States and seeing so many sites. 
  9. How do/did you keep your children excited about being a “missionary” with constant travel and being in church all of the time? We were always showing them how the Lord was working in our lives as we traveled.  They could watch how He always provided when we needed.
  10. Do/Did you feel the burden of having well behaved children at all times? Any parent wants their children to be well behaved at all times, but that is not always possible.  That 'ole depraved nature always pops out at the most inoportune time in kids. But we all do our best to teach them.
  11. What is the most encouraging thing that a Pastor’s wife could do or say to you regarding your children?. I guess is that the can see that we have taught our children how to behave and to also have their own standards. 
  12. Do you always have the option of a Nursery in churches or do you sometimes have to take children who are not ready yet into services? I was fortunate to always have a nursery where we were. And for those churches where there is no nursery, do you wish they would make a special exception for your family while you are there? That would always be nice, but I would never expect it.  We would do the best we could.  It would not make me feel out of place to take a child out of the services.  That is just the same as is expected of any church member.
  13. What is the best thing (other than prayer) that a church can do for your family or give to your family? Friendship and love
  14. What are some things that churches do for you that may not be a help to you? We have been put into to church members homes that obviously did not like children and that caused inconvenience.  But there really has not been anything that I comes to mind.
  15. Do you prefer to stay in a hotel, mission’s apartment, or the home of a church member? For me, when we had children a mission apartment was always wonderful.  But as we have gotten older staying in a home is nice.  I have developed several very special friendships from staying in homes.
  16. What is the best thing a Pastor’s Wife can do to make you feel comfortable in her church? Just to show kindness goes a very long ways.  I have actually been in churches that I never learned who the pastor's wife was.  A willingness to help you with you children, especially if you have several.
  17. What is the best thing that the ladies of the church can do for you? Talk to you.  Start up a conversation.  Not necessarily always about the mission field.  Just normal women and mom things.
  18. Do you ever feel that you have to be “fake” at a new church to be accepted as a missionary? (For instance, do you feel the need to always smile, be social, and be positive about every aspect of your ministry and deputation) When I was younger and new in the ministry I felt I had to be perfect.  Just be yourself.  People can always tell when you are being fake.  When talking about your ministry and being on deputation, you can be honest.  It is not always easy, but it just how you talk about it.  You don't want people to feel sorry for you, you want them to feel your burden.
  19. What kind of church makes you “feel at home”? Friendly, outgoing and talkative.  I enjoy it when the ladies talk to me, but what impresses me the most is when the teenagers come and talk.
  20. Who are your best friends and what do they do that encourages you? I think my best friends are my two sisters.  One is also in the ministry.  She is a pastor's wife.  They allow me to vent when I need to.  If my husband and I are not on the same page (nice way of saying having an argument) I know that my sisters will let me vent and it is not going to be told all over the church.  They can be honest with me and tell me get off my soapbox or stop having a pity party for myself.  But most of all, I know that they are praying for me daily.  Sometimes hourly when needed.
  21. Any “horror “stories you’d like to share? Well.........that could be opening a can of worms.   :0)  Let me see.  How about our family of six (youngest age 4 and a boy) staying in a home.  The lady did not like kids and her living room was completely white and glass furniture..  Including white shag carpet.  Needless to say, I was in our bedroom a lot with all for children because I was afraid of a disaster.
  22. What has been the biggest blessing so far about being “on the road”? To me that was being able to share with our family how God provides.  Over and over we watched Him perform those miracles that people say never happen anymore. 
  23. Do you ever get worried that your children will resent the ministry and the fact that you took them from America, away from their family and friends? There is always that possibility.  All we can do is our best, allow them to help as much in the ministry as possible, and pray, pray, pray.
  24. What are/were your biggest fears and challenges about raising your children in a different culture? We would us it a learning tool to teaching them (and ourselves)the differences between our culture and other countries.  It also taught our children to love our own country.
  25. How do you manage the lonely times (holidays, etc) without your family and friends in the States? We would try to celebrate in the same way as if we were in the states.  I tried to always make sure that I would bring something for each holiday to put up in our home.  And we started making new traditions.  In fact, we started a new tradition here in the states.  On New Years Day, I would make an full Romanian meal for the family.  It is something that we look forward to every year. 
  26. What do you do to encourage yourself in the Lord? Of course Bible reading.  But I sing a lot.  It soothes my heart to hear hymns. 
  27. Do you have a hard time sharing your burdens with your husband for fear of discouraging him?. I used to feel that way years before.  But I began to carry burdens thinking I was protecting my husband.  But after we talked one time he taught me that I was trying to carry burdens that were really something that he should be handling.  Also, if we do not share our burdens with our husbands, how can he properly pray for us?
  28. What do you do to encourage your husband? You would be surprised how by simple encouraging words.  Quite often he would go out to new villages on evangelistic trips.  I would try to put little notes in his shirt pockets or Bible.  Try to find new ways to encourage him. You would be surprised what really does encourage him.  I learned accidently one time when he was talking to another preacher about how when I would walk by him when he was at his desk working and just brush my hand across his shoulders as I walked by what a encouragement that was to him.  Who would have thought it???
  29. What is your favorite Scripture? I Cor 15:10 - But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.
  30. What is your favorite song? It Is Well With My Soul
  31. How do you fit in your personal time with the Lord each day? I try to start every morning.  But you never now what is going to happen.  I have the Bible on my phone.  So every spare minute I have I try to read or listen to the Bible when my devotional time gets interrupted.
  32. What is the most important thing you have learned so far about being in the ministry? To be careful to get too busy doing the ministry.  When I do, I tend to start doing it in my power and not the Lord's.  We have to cherish that personal time with Him.  I know that it is not always possible, but just do our best.  And to constantly pray.
  33. If you could give one piece of advice to a girl/young woman who is wanting to be the wife of a missionary, what would it be? As women, we want to claim him to be "all" ours.  We have to be willing to share him.  Of course, we should always want him to put God first before us.  Just stay yielded and die to self every morning. 
  34. What is your favorite thing about the country you are in/are going to? It might sould corny, but my favorite thing is that it is the country God wants us to be in.  And that make it my favorite.
  35. Are you able to have the same type of ladies' ministries where you are serving as you could have in the states? When we were in Romania it was not possible to have the same type of ladies ministries that we have here.  When working with gypsy women it is a whole different culture.  Most of the women were bought as young ladies and even teenage girls.  They are just property.  They are not allowed to go to school.  The men want to keep them uneducated and always pregnant.  They want their women to be dependent on them. 
  36. Did/Do you have to learn a new language? And if yes, how was it? Did you catch on quickly? Yes, we learned Romanian.  Even though the gypsies spoke the own language, they also spoke Romanian.  The last few years we were learning their language.  For me learning another language was difficult because at the time I was home schooling four children.  I was not able to get out as much to practice the language with people.  I learned the language almost perfectly on paper and reading but speaking was difficult for me.  After the children were gone was when I was able to learn better.
  37. What is the hardest thing about being in another country? I was always afraid of breaking one of the laws that I did not know.  Or do a cultural mistake. 
  38. How have you had to adapt to the culture where you are serving? Food? Clothing? I had to be careful how I acted and interacted with my husband in public.  Because women were second class citizens then.  When it came to food I had to adapt the "don't ask" policy.  Sometimes it was better not to know what I was eating.  Working with the gypsy women, clothing was not much of a problem.  They were required to be covered from head to toe, including the head. 
  39. What are some ways you keep in contact with your family and friends that are across the world? The first few years were very difficult.  There were no computers.  The only way was to communicate was by snail mail and phones.  And then it was between $2-4 per minute to call.  So we did not call the states very often.  Now, there is no problem at all.  With computers you can do almost anything type of communicating.  Anything from email to Skype.
  40. Do you feel "home" where God has called you?  We have been away from the mission field for several years.  Even though we knew this was where God wanted us at this time, both my husband's and my heart never left Romania.  We are so anxious to get back to the mission field!!!